Archive | March 17, 2016

Learning how to be Vulnerable*

Learning how to be Vulnerable*

By Alanna Ketler

What does it mean to be truly vulnerable?

This question has been on my mind a lot lately. Being vulnerable means letting your guard down, and it means risk. By completely exposing yourself and expressing your thoughts and feelings, you risk being hurt, you risk being rejected, and you risk being seen. Understandably, many people find being vulnerable challenging and frightening, particularly men, at least in my experience. They often have a more difficult time showing or expressing emotion, having been told by society, their parents, or their friends that it’s not ‘manly’ to do so. It’s not uncommon for men to feel weak or effeminate when expressing emotion, so often they lock it all away and bear the burden of holding on to so much. But there is such power in being able to be absolutely vulnerable with someone, and deep connections are made in this way.

As C.S. Lewis once said,

“To love at all is to be vulnerable.”

Dr. Brene Brown, a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work and the author of the bestselling book Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead, has devoted nearly 15 years of her life studying the emotions of vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame. Her research has made it into the mainstream and has been featured on PBS, NPR, CNN, The Katie Show, and even Oprah Winfrey’s Super Soul Sunday. Her Tedx Houston talk, “The Power Of Vulnerability,” is one of the top ten most viewed Ted Talks in the world. When it comes to vulnerability, I think it’s safe to say she’s an expert.

I absolutely love the part where she says:

“They had connection . . . as a result of authenticity. They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be, in order to be who they were.”

And this line was pretty brilliant, too:

“Being willing to be the one to say I love you first, and do something that doesn’t provide any guarantees, this is ways one could show vulnerability.”

As Dr. Brown mentions, people who feel shame are more likely to avoid vulnerability out of the fear of not being understood, or disliked, and therefore distance themselves from other people. It is a vicious cycle. It can be very challenging to be absolutely yourself and authentic with the ones you love, but it is so worth it in the end. Besides, don’t you want people to love you for who you are, flaws and all? If you are constantly hiding these aspects of yourself, you may never truly connect with another person.

Being vulnerable means showing your authentic self to the ones that you love despite the fear that they may not accept you for who you are. This is a remarkable way to connect deeply with those who are important to you. I’m sure you may have met someone — or you may be like this yourself — who never lets their guard down, and never reveals who they truly are. This can come in the form of what I like to call being a “chameleon for love.” These are people who always agree with what everyone says, and always seem to like the same things as everyone else, never sharing a different or controversial opinion. In order to be likeable, loved, and accepted, they do not show who they truly are or voice their own opinion, out of fear of being rejected. This is an example of someone who is afraid of being vulnerable and expressing themselves authentically. But how can you expect to truly connect with someone else if you can’t even be yourself around them? This is something to think about.

Being vulnerable also means having your defences down. Instead of being in defence mode and attacking what someone says about you, you can actually listen to what’s being said, accept it, and share your feelings in turn. If you can let your guard down, you may find it interesting to see how perceptive other people can be, and you may learn something about yourself that you were afraid to see or face.

By practicing vulnerability you allow yourself to feel:

  • A deeper degree of honesty
  • A greater degree of transparency
  • Less defensiveness
  • More courage
  • More authentically yourself
  • A higher level of understanding
  • A deeper sense of connectedness
  • Less lonely and isolated
  • Deeper, more loving relationships

At the end of the talk, she offers some fantastic advice worth practicing every day, for it really can have a more positive effect in your life than you might imagine. Here are the 4 main points:

  1. Let yourself be seen.
  2. Love with all your heart with no guarantee
  3. Practice Gratitude in joy; in moments of terror and fear, be grateful
  4. Believe that you are enough

This takes practice and yes, it can be difficult, especially starting out, but give it a shot and see how your world transforms. I guarantee you will feel more confident in who you are and more connected to those you love.

Much Love

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Indian Government Cuts Monsanto’s GM Seed Royalty Fees by 70%*

Indian Government Cuts Monsanto’s GM Seed Royalty Fees by 70%*

By Christina Sarich

The Indian Agricultural Minister has confirmed that royalties to biotech giant Monsanto for its genetically modified cotton seeds will be capped at 49 rupees (73 cents U.S.) per 450-pack, amounting to a 70% reduction from current levels. Monsanto is threatening to ‘pull-out’ in response to the cap.

In an act of sheer defiance against the seed monopolizing company, who also happened to introduce GM cotton seed illegally into the country, the Indian government has also capped GM cotton seed prices at 800 rupees for a packet of 400 grams

Monsanto does business in India under the name Mahyco Monsanto Biotech, or MMB, as a joint venture with Maharashtra Hybrid Seeds Co. The venture allows Monsanto to collect trait fees, a form or royalties.

Indian agricultural minister Sharad Pawar has also admitted in parliament that there is a flourishing illegal market for genetically modified (GM) cotton seeds, strengthening allegations by the industry that more than half of all the GM cotton now growing in the country is from unapproved varieties.

Monsanto and Mahyco have stated they plan to “re-evaluate every aspect” of their position in India, suggesting the cut to their ill-begotten royalties would override contracts they have with seed companies.

Monsanto’s Bt Cotton has been controversial, some naming it as the cause of over 300,000 farmer suicides. Close to 65% of India’s cotton crop comes from farmers who rely on rain, not irrigation pumps. For them, the situation is the opposite—reliance on pesticides and the higher cost of the seeds increase the risk of bankruptcy and thus suicide. The smaller and more Bt-reliant the farm in these rain-fed cotton areas, the higher the suicide rate.

India was the world’s cotton provider for perhaps 5000 years, until the emergence of the slavery-dependent cotton empire in the southern United States in the early 1800s. The same model of slavery is being inflicted upon Indian farmers today, simply_ by the promotion of the use of insecticides, and herbicides as well as GM seed to farmers who are already deeply in debt for their land.

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Melinda Gates to Inject Indian Girls with Sterilization and has Injected African Girls*

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Monsanto Cutting 1,000 Jobs Facing First Annual Loss in 6 Years*

Monsanto Supplied Chemical Weapons to Israel*

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She Helped Save Her Town. Then She Finished High School*

She Helped Save Her Town. Then She Finished High School*

Erica Fernandez in 2007 | Photo: Brower Youth Awards

 

By Chris Clarke

Residents along the Ventura Coast are no strangers to oil and gas development. Oil drilling has been a part of life along the Santa Barbara Channel since 1896, with gigantic oil rigs sprouting offshore in the late 1960s.

But when an Australian energy company proposed to build a floating terminal 13 miles off Point Dume into a massive terminal for imported Liquefied Natural Gas (LNG), and send the gas through the working-class community of Oxnard via a 36-inch pipeline, that was a step too far.

That company had friends in the local business community, the support of energy-hungry Californians, and a war-chest of many millions of dollars. But the LNG project was doomed at the outset, because the opposition had a secret weapon: local teenager Erica Fernandez.

The LNG pipeline, proposed by Australian conglomerate BHP Billiton, had been rejected by the wealthier communities of Malibu and Ventura early in the planning stages. Ships would unload their LNG — imported from Australia’s gas reserves off its West Coast — at the terminal, and the super-cooled gas would be piped to a “regasification” plant that would convert the fuel for distribution to SoCalGas’s customers. The Australian LNG piped through Oxnard would have supplied about ten percent of California’s natural gas consumption.

But the LNG pipeline’s proposed route would have taken it through Oxnard’s poorest neighbourhoods. That earned it opposition from environmental activists, who pointed out that the proposed project’s neighbours — largely Latino and not particularly affluent — would be exposed to a disproportionate share of the estimated 280 tons of pollutants the project would generate each year. The Santa Barbara-based Environmental Defense Center was working to organize opposition, just as it had to a 1980s-era proposal to build a similar terminal at Point Concepcion. The Sierra Club’s coastal campaign was also organizing opposition to the project.

That’s where things stood when Hueneme High School student Erica Fernandez heard about the proposal while volunteering at a beach cleanup.

Fernandez was no stranger to working hard. She’d started working at age five, in the farm fields of her native Michoacan. She recalled being struck by the relative luxury when she learned, on reaching the United States aged 10, that she was only expected to do well in school and not to hold down a job at the same time.

Concerned about her father’s increasing respiratory ailments, Fernandez took the pipeline project and its likely impact on local air quality personally. She began working with the Coastal Alliance, the Sierra Club, and other environmental groups to oppose BHP Billiton’s pipeline, organizing weekly protests outside the company’s Oxnard office attended by as many as 250 of her schoolmates.

When Fernandez was 16, her father’s health had affected the family’s finances to the point where her parents moved to the less-expensive Tulare County community of Strathmore. 170 miles north. Fernandez decided to stay and fight the pipeline. Working two jobs to support herself while attending school, Fernandez continued her organizing work while living in a friend’s garage.

Fernandez became known for her ability to bring disparate groups of people together in common cause, a trait well-displayed — along with her facility at public speaking — in formal remarks to the California State Lands Commission in April 2007;

If you allow this project to come into my community, our future will be dependent on a company which has become wealthy at any cost. Do they live here? No. Do they vote here? No. Do their children go to school with me? No. Would you allow us to become their experiments? Commissioners, tonight you are charged with making a very important decision. I ask you, making that decision, I’m asking you to think about the young people of this community. People like me. Look around. That community is present. We are young, old, black, brown, white, rich, middle class, and poor. We are from Oxnard and Malibu. We are united against this project. After hearing from more than 2,000 pipeline opponents the Lands Commission voted 2-1 to oppose the project, as did the California Coastal Commission a couple weeks later.

Hernandez didn’t work alone, of course: the communities of Oxnard and Malibu came together in an inspiring cross-cultural coalition to oppose the BHP Billiton pipeline. Opponents of the project numbered in the thousands.

But that number might well have been a lot smaller if it wasn’t for the young woman from Michoacan with the ferocious drive. Fernandez’s work wasn’t just lauded in her community; she was also recognized on a national scale in 2007, the year BHP Billiton’s project was spiked. That’s the year Fernandez won the coveted Brower Youth Award, awarded each year to outstanding youth environmental activists. Here’s her acceptance speech:

That was just her way of getting started. Since 2007, Fernandez has graduated high school at the top of her class, attended Stanford with help from the Gates Millennium Scholars Program, and is now pursuing a law degree with the aim of specializing in environmental law.

Fernandez is, in other words, a fitting subject for our final profile in this series on California’s environmental activist women, and you can bet we’ll be hearing from her again. It’s just like she says in her favourite quotation, from role model Cesar Chavez:

Once social change begins, it cannot be reversed. You cannot un-educate the person who has learned to read. You cannot humiliate the person who feels pride. You cannot oppress the people who are not afraid anymore. We have seen the future, and the future is ours.

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Fifteen Indigenous Rights Victories in 2015*

Indigenous Canadians Sue Government over White Adoptions*

Eugenics: Kidnapping of the Indigenous Sioux in South Dakota*

Canada Forcing the Indigenous to Give Up their Land*

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US Vaporized and Experimented on the Indigenous of Marshall Islands*

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Police Killing Indigenous Americans at Astounding Rate*

Indigenous Activists Chase McCain off the Navajo Land he intends to Mine*

U.K. is at Bottom Of O.E.C.D. In Healthcare – But Leaders Still Deny Austerity Is to Blame*

U.K. is at Bottom Of O.E.C.D. In Healthcare – But Leaders Still Deny Austerity Is to Blame*

By Gabrielle Pickard-Whitehead

No sooner were the protest banners lowered last month following a second straight strike by junior doctors, who were protesting government plans to impose longer working hours at lower pay, than Britain’s Health Secretary Jeremy Hunt insisted the country’s burgeoning healthcare crisis was not “austerity driven.”

Fighting back when quizzed recently about the quality of health service in the U.K. at the House of Commons, Hunt said that to blame austerity policies for the country’s healthcare woes was “stretching” it. He claimed the government next year will give the sixth biggest funding increase to the National Health Service that it has received in its 70-year history.

Many, however, are not convinced.

One criticism of the government’s claims that the NHS is being sufficiently funded is articulated in a report by the King’s Fund, based on statistics from the British Social Attitudes Survey. The report found that public discontentment with the health service rose in 2014 more sharply than in any other year on record.

The think tank’s chief economist, John Appleby, told the Independent that the increase in NHS dissatisfaction was “driven by waiting times for appointments and perceptions of underfunding and staff shortages.”

Challenging the notion that the NHS is better funded than ever before, Appleby said the health service was rather being “squeezed as never before.” “Although health spending will grow, growth in the economy as a whole will almost certainly outstrip the relatively small real-terms increase pencilled in for the NHS,” he said.

Britain Ranks 28th in Healthcare Among 30 Countries

damning report by the Economist Intelligence Unit, which appeared in 2015, compared the U.K .with 29 other wealthy countries in the Organisation for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECED). In that report, Britain took the 28th position in the table.

The report reached its conclusion based on several alarming facts related to dissatisfactory healthcare in Britain. For example, in 2012, out of every 10,000 members of the U.K. population there were just 2.8 doctors, compared to 3.2 in other higher ranking OECD countries.

When it comes to nurses, the report found that there are only 8.2 nurses per 10,000 people in Britain, compared with an average of 8.9 nurses per 10,000 among the 30 nations analyzed. Further figures highlighted in the report included the woefully low number of hospital beds per head – which in the U.K. total just 2.8 per 1,000 people, compared with the OECD average of 4.8 per 1,000 people.

In terms of medical technology and equipment, the study found that Britain has less than half the amount of magnetic resonance image units (MRI) units than the average measured among OECD countries – a statistic that drastically contrasts with claims that the U.K. is quickly becoming Europe’s next big tech hub.

In fact, when it comes to national health, Britain is significantly lagging behind much of the rest of Europe. In 2014, Britain was found to have fewer doctors than almost every country in the EU, with only Poland, Romania, Slovenia and Ireland reporting fewer doctors per head than Britain.

In light of the OECD report, which found that Greece had more than twice has many doctors in relation to its population than Britain, senior doctors warned that the “acute shortages” were putting lives at risk and placing health services under “incredible pressure.”

Doctor Cliff Mann, President of the College of Emergency Medicine, which represents Accident and Emergency doctors in the U.K., bluntly told the Telegraph:

“We have been warning for some years that we have got fewer doctors than in most parts of the developed world.”

“When you have shortages of doctors in some areas it means longer waits. In A&E that’s not really an option, so it means doctors work harder and harder, it means there is a greater chance of mistakes, and ultimately it means risks to lives,” Dr. Mann warned.

That was 2014. But instead of taking heed, making conditions more favorable for U.K. doctors and consequently improving the nation’s health service, the government has consistently moved in the opposite direction. Most recently, it has made life tougher for doctors and others working in health care by imposing controversial new contracts that will increase hours and lower pay – provoking a fierce and ongoing row with the medical profession and ultimately creating an even bigger crisis than existed before.

The Paris-based OECD recently called for richer member countries to implement less austerity measures and increase public investment, including on infrastructure projects. But in contrast to this message, Chancellor George Osborne and the Tory government have warned of fresh cuts to public spending in next month’s budget.

Talking to the BBC, Osborne warned that slower growth in the U.K. economy will mean further reductions being made, and said he would “rather look for extra cuts now than risk breaking the manifesto commitment to achieve a surplus in the budget by the end of this Parliament in 2020.” Certainly not a statement that concurs with the OECD call to ease up on austerity and invest more in the public domain.

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Olmecs: The People behind the Long Count were not Mayans*

Olmecs: The People behind the Long Count were not Mayans*

When did the break-up of Pangea take place? This may seem like an odd question in the context of things, so I’ll ask another question. With archaeological, and anthropological obsession with the origins of Caucasians, where were the different ethnic groups located during the great continental drift?

One of the tools of war is to destroy, remove evidence that a people existed in that location during ‘X’ period a good example is Jewish history. However they are masterfully in control. Another great example is the denigration of Black History, a successful campaign to remove any possible notion that they are capable of anything of importance.

A colossal Olmec head at Tres Zapotes, Mexico travel.nationalgeographic.com

By physically removing any example along with forced upheaval geographically, and psychologically, social engineering and the re-writing of history, Muslims, Jews and Christians, and indigenous peoples of the world have been made to do a great dis-service to the upliftment of humanity, with one ethnicity deemed the superior ‘race’ – a term that was invented by them to perpetuate myths.

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Sanctified

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